Anger is an
emotion we snatch up to avoid less comfortable feelings confusion, fear, and
sadness. Anger is a normal human emotion
that always occurs after we experience something that causes us frustration
worry, etc. It is usually associated with forms of stress…emotional family,
psychological, work, or a work-related experience.
Why should
we understand our anger? Some say it is good to have a little temper to show
you are not a pushover if the temper is uncontrollable is it not acceptable in
our relationships with family, with others, with business relations or even us.
Here are
some things that anger can cause:
Anger leads
to more stress causing more anger
Anger
reduces our social skills and compromises other relationships too.
Anger leads
to making mistakes.
Anger could
mean a loss of business because it destroys your relationships with contacts.
So start now
with a few tips to control stress and anger.
Think Before
you speak- Take time to collect your thoughts before you say something you will
regret.
Express your
anger in a non-confrontational way after you calm down. State your concerns
clearly and directly without hurting others or trying to control them.
Exercise! It
reduces stress which can cause you to be angry. When you feel your anger rising
stop and go take a walk. Do something you enjoy.
Time outs
are for adults too. During stressful times of the day take brief time outs. A
quiet time helps prepare you better for things ahead without getting irritable.
Work on
issues at hand. Remind yourself that anger won’t fix anything and might even
make it worse.
Don’t hold a
grudge. Don’t get swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of frustration.
With forgiveness, you might even learn from the situation.
Practice
relaxation skills. Put those relaxation skills to work. Breathe deeply; listen
to music or maybe a little yoga. Maybe even repeat a calming word.
