Why Understand Anger ?

Anger is an emotion we snatch up to avoid less comfortable feelings confusion, fear, and sadness.  Anger is a normal human emotion that always occurs after we experience something that causes us frustration worry, etc. It is usually associated with forms of stress…emotional family, psychological, work, or a work-related experience.

Why should we understand our anger? Some say it is good to have a little temper to show you are not a pushover if the temper is uncontrollable is it not acceptable in our relationships with family, with others, with business relations or even us.

Here are some things that anger can cause:

Anger leads to more stress causing more anger

Anger reduces our social skills and compromises other relationships too.

Anger leads to making mistakes.

Anger could mean a loss of business because it destroys your relationships with contacts.

So start now with a few tips to control stress and anger.

Think Before you speak- Take time to collect your thoughts before you say something you will regret.

Express your anger in a non-confrontational way after you calm down. State your concerns clearly and directly without hurting others or trying to control them.

Exercise!  It reduces stress which can cause you to be angry. When you feel your anger rising stop and go take a walk. Do something you enjoy.

Time outs are for adults too. During stressful times of the day take brief time outs. A quiet time helps prepare you better for things ahead without getting irritable.

Work on issues at hand. Remind yourself that anger won’t fix anything and might even make it worse.

Don’t hold a grudge. Don’t get swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of frustration. With forgiveness, you might even learn from the situation.

Practice relaxation skills. Put those relaxation skills to work. Breathe deeply; listen to music or maybe a little yoga. Maybe even repeat a calming word.