Saturday, May 19, 2012

Bullying - Accelerated Teasing

Bullying ourselves is real. Comparisons to others bring out the problem. It causes us to stray away from the fact we are unique individuals. Comparisons eat away that positive attitude and let the negative drain our energy.

Does being pushed to be at the top of your game create a problem of not living up to your expectations? Does it deflate your self-worth?

When I was in elementary school bullying was labeled teasing. It just seemed natural to call a redhead "Carrot top" or the tall one "Skyscraper" Shorty, Tubby and Fat one all seemed to be harmless. Yet, it did cause us to compare ourselves with others. In school, we heard it from the teachers. "Your brother made better grades than you". It caused us to compare with our siblings. At home, we heard "your sister behaves better than you".
Because we use so many new technologies we are not interacting with others. When some are faced with bullying they can't cope. There is no one at home to discuss the problem with because family members have busy schedules. They don't even share a meal together.

Self-bully started at home when family members started going their own separate ways. Home is no longer a safe haven to share and solve problems. Families do not even have a meal together. Teens start using texting and Youtube as a game to humiliate others. Bullying is a trendy thing to do on school campuses. Those being bullied lose sight of their self-worth. They begin to try and answer the question why? Comparing themselves with the most popular, the better looking, the richest kids in school causes them to lose sight of their self-worth.
If bullying started accelerating with the new technology tools why can't the new technologies tools stop the bullying? Help build that self-worth through
positive messages.

Don't text messages that will hurt someone.
Do not stay connected with those who participate in bullying.
Delete bullying messages.
Tell your friends you do not like bullying.
Talk to someone about rules against bullying
For teenagers talk to parents and counselors
For adults, you know the drill you have survived so far. Help Stop Bullying



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